Includes bibliographical references.

PART ONE: At home: adult children of alcoholics -- What happened to you as a child? -- What is happening to you now? -- Breaking the cycle -- What about your children? -- Recovery hints -- PART TWO: In love: struggle for intimacy -- What do you pick for your lover? -- What is a healthy relationship anyway? -- Relationship issues shared by adult children of alcoholics: Fear of loss of self, Fear of being found out, Fear of abandonment, Bonding, Vulnerability, Anger, Guilt and shame, Depression, Trust, boundaries, Expectations, Control, Loyalty, Validation -- Issues of sexuality: Same-sex relationship, General sexual issues, Incest -- So you love an ACOA -- Getting it all together -- Conclusion -- PART THREE: At work: the self-sabotage syndrome -- The overview -- The home away from home -- The ACOA -- Boundaries -- ACOAs and workaholism -- ACOAs and burnout -- ACOAs as emplyees -- ACOAs as supervisors -- How the work crisis arises -- Getting through the work crisis -- Changing jobs -- Developing healthy workplace relationships -- Finding the right job for you -- ACOAs as counseling professionals -- Thoughts for employee assistance programs -- Conclusion.